As usual, taking my life advice directly from monty python, "Run away!!!! Run away!!!!!"

Well, it's Sunday now and no response. They've had my phone number since Wednesday night, and no response. To be honest, I am kinda relieved.

...but it's still hanging out there. Oh, it's out there.

Friday next... and no phone call. I wonder if Mr. even gave my contact information to Mrs...?

Hmmm... well, no great loss. Just a nagging question. BTW, it's still out there.

I would stay clear. It's a small town ,the chances that you'll eventually bump into each other are greater. So, just wait, who knows, your kids will probably end up in school together so just wait for those functions for the if nessecary "wow long time no see."
Charissa

I would stay clear. It's a small town ,the chances that you'll eventually bump into each other are greater. So, just wait, who knows, your kids will probably end up in school together so just wait for those functions for the if nessecary "wow long time no see."

Which is exactly what I am doing. I'm not even going over to Mr.'s desk and inviting him to lunch. Since I can't even assume he gave the contact info to his wife, HE knows I'm here somewhere, and that's the way it'll stay until they decide to make the next move.

I'm not looking for closure... it was just out of curiosity.

Okay, I had taken JU advice: I had put this away and almost totally forgotten about it.

Then the XGF called the house last night. After what? Three weeks? Apparently she'd been mulling it over too.

I was out, and my wife answered the phone. I have a return phone number... but do I want to reopen that casket and examine the corpse?

I say again,

I'm not looking for closure... it was just out of curiosity.

DO I CALL HER?! AAGH!

DO I CALL HER?! AAGH!

Out of courtesy, you need to now.  Just make sure your wife is with you when you do.

Out of courtesy, you need to now.

Okay, the deed is done. I was running an errand (picking up my Guster tickets) from Mix 106.5 in Towson and used the traffic time to reconnect with my XGF. Thirty minute call, no less!

PERSONAL LIVES:
Good talk. She was sincerely happy to hear from me. She has six kids and been married fourteen years now. This isn't the guy she dumped me for, but just a guy she met at a church singles dance a while afterwards. They've been living here in Maryland for eight years now, just after he finished up grad school and they're very happy. I told her how I am: married 12+ years myself, four kids, been in Maryland nine months now and loving it. Grad school myself, after six fun-filled years in the Army. Coincidence: her husband was a Naval intelligence guy too. Go figure.

POSSIBILITY FOR FOLLOW-UP:
Well, she actually was very glad to hear from me, in a very genuine way. We exchanged email addresses and I invited her to a concert that my choir will perform next Saturday. Maybe she will show, but who knows. But as of now, I just got an email from her with a family picture. Cute kids, all six of them.

HOW I FEEL:
I feel good, okay, not bad. I don't feel like we had any great revelations about our relationship or any corpses exhumed. I did get some satisfaction to find out that she didn't up and marry the guy she dumped me for... he was too busy spending time in jail! (yeah, shocker!)

But honestly, the conversation was fine. I could actually tell that we'd both grown up a lot since we last saw each other (that's a good good thing, since we were 19 when we broke up!)

We are friends and I'm not expecting any great lasting camaraderie to come from all of this. We'll stay in touch, and write an email occasionally to one another. She will just become one of my old friends who I don't have a whole bunch in common with...

And maybe the XGF'll bring the hub and kids down to the concert next Saturday. Then I'll get to see the 'what might have been' girl... and her many many children.

UPDATE:

Well, she didn't show at last night's concert. Not a bad deal after all is said and done, but we'll just see if we actually meet up again, in person.