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Put your baby to the test!
Published on January 3, 2006 By singrdave In Parenting
Regarding the question of breast feeding your baby:

Do it.

Best for the child; bets for the mother. According to La Leche League, there are definite benefits for baby. They cite the book "The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding" quite a bit, too:

Benefits for Baby
Chapter 18 of THE WOMANLY ART OF BREASTFEEDING, "The Superior Infant Food," documents the benefits of breastfeeding such as the antibodies in it to protect the baby from illness. For example, "Deaths from respiratory infections in artificially fed infants were 120 times greater than among breastfed babies" (THE WOMANLY ART OF BREASTFEEDING, page 345). Breastfed babies have a decreased likelihood for allergies and dental caries. They also benefit from appropriate jaw, teeth and speech development as well as overall facial development. This means that people who were artificially fed may experience more trips to doctors and dentists.

Benefits for Mother
Chapter 19 of THE WOMANLY ART OF BREASTFEEDING, "How Breastfeeding Affects a Mother," describes some of the physical benefits of breastfeeding for the mother such as reduced rates of breast cancer and ovarian cancer. The time saved for mother is immense also. As a breastfeeding mother, you can feed your baby even during stressful times such as when normal supplies of food and water are not available.


Even the formula manufacturers are on the side of breastfeeding:
From the Nestle' website...

Breastmilk is nature's most perfect food for your baby. That's why the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP), an organization of more than 53,000 physicians who specialize in caring for children, recommends breastmilk as the primary source of nutrition for baby's first year of life. Here are breastfeeding highlights:
1) Doctors agree breastmilk is the best source of nutrition for your baby because it's easy to digest, helps baby avoid food allergies and gives him protective antibodies to help fight off illness.
2) Begin breastfeeding as soon as possible after birth. Make sure your health-care provider knows that you plan to breastfeed your baby. When you're admitted to the hospital, ask the labor and delivery room nurse to notify the nursery that you will be breastfeeding. Nurse your baby as soon after delivery as possible, preferably within the first hour after birth. Your baby benefits right away from the easy-to-digest proteins, vitamins, and minerals-as well as from protective antibodies-in colostrum, the yellowish, translucent fluid that your breasts secrete for the first two to three days. In addition to helping both of you adjust to breastfeeding, frequent and early nursing also helps increase your milk production and helps your baby have his first bowel movement.


The website lists seven total benefits of breastfeeding.

My wife is currently breastfeeding our six month old infant. He is thriving from breast milk, and my wife is very happy. This hasn't always been the case. We have four children and only two have been exclusively breast-fed. My oldest took to it like a champ. He wasn't weaned until about twelve or thirteen months old, when he was transitioned to solid food. To add to the complication, at the time my wife was working. She still was able to nurse our oldest son; we had it worked out pretty well. She was working nights, after I was home from my job. She'd nurse him before work, leaving a bottle of expressed milk in the fridge for me, and I would drive the baby to her on her lunch break (around 7 or 8 pm) and she'd nurse him while eating her dinner.

Our second son was premature, and did not develop the sucking reflex. He was not thriving at all, and in fact started to lose weight at around five months old. He was listless and hungry all the time. We were very concerned, and so we switched him over to formula. This was devastating to my wife, who felt she had failed as a mother. She felt betrayed by the child, as well, and it took a lot of soul-searching on her part to get over the breast-feeding issue. But when we saw our baby thriving and happy, gaining weight, laughing, smiling, and interacting, we knew it was the right thing to do.

Our third child lost interest in the breast at about five months. She was not underfed; she just simply refused it. She was very easily distracted by background noise (and with two older kids in the house, it was often), and would latch off and look around to see what was going on. We had to move her to the bottle in order for her to get enough food, and that transition was much less awkward because we'd already been through the trauma with our second son.

There is also the social side of breastfeeding in public, which is awkward, somewhat obvious, and may be offensive to some. To them I say poo. A pox on your house. My wife is doing what's best for our child. She's covered up; what do you care what she does underneath that baby blue blanket?

So any thoughts? Any stories out there about your own experiences? Breastfeeding good? Breastfeeding bad? How does one weigh the social and work implications of breastfeeding? Anyone out there just totally against breastfeeding? Or think it's just unfeasible?

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on Jan 03, 2006
It's what our bodies are designed to do.


Not all bodies are designed to do it I'm afraid. When everyone involved is healthy and things work right, then yes, breast is best. There is no "best" for everyone though.

Women really get jerked around when it comes to breastfeeding. It may be natural but it isn't easy for everyone. My first born was not a good sucker and I was very sick. Just not a good situation for either of us. My second was a great sucker and it worked well until I got mastitis like dharmagrl. Man I was sick! I felt like I had a tennis ball under my arm because it got infected way up into my armpit. I got a high fever and was just miserable. I felt like I had failed a second time!

Guess what, my two sons are now 5 and 9 and are about the healthiest kids in the neighborhood. No allergies, no asthma, only a couple of ear infections. Very healthy. Formula didn't seem to hurt my 9yr old's brain since he is at the top of his class.

What I am trying to say is don't ever feel guilty for doing what you need to do in your own unique situation.
on Jan 03, 2006
First off I want to say what a well written article! Way to go on promoting breast feeding, and being a supportive spouse! I am currently nursing my 6 month old daughter. We have had 2 cases of thrush and a HORRIBLE case of mastitis in those 6 months, but stuck with it and are still nursing today.

I agree with TexasWahine, that if you are not able to nurse because of a medical issue then you shouldn't feel bad. But I also agree that people that chose to not breast feed because of the convience factor or just because the don't want to are being selfish. I guess if you don't want the BEST for your child.. it raises a few questions.

Like Locamama said~ any amount of breast milk a child recieves is beneficial, so I think that mothers owe it to their children to at least TRY breast feeding.

And as far as Le Leache League goes , I am a member, and have found them immensley supportive, and have been a great resource to help us in our nursing relationship. The leaders have been there for me in the middle of the night to help me with mastitis, and when baby was on a nursing strike. I'm sorry you find them extreme, but it is their job to promote and assist in breastfeeding, that is the reason behind the whole organization!

Breast is Best! I am so proud to be a nursing mom, it is hard at times, but so worth it.
on Jan 04, 2006
But I also agree that people that chose to not breast feed because of the convience factor or just because the don't want to are being selfish. I guess if you don't want the BEST for your child.. it raises a few questions.


I think you are making the subject too black and white. If someone is extremely uncomfortable with breastfeeding, it isn't going to be the best thing for the baby. Women who are relaxed with a bottle are going to have a better relationship with their baby than if they are totally stressed out over breastfeeding.

Things get complicated when you have more than one child too. Or, what if you are on your own and have no support system? I am just saying that people seem too judgemental about breastfeeding.

Like Locamama said~ any amount of breast milk a child recieves is beneficial, so I think that mothers owe it to their children to at least TRY breast feeding.


I totally agree with this statement for anyone who doesn't have a medical condition that would prevent breast feeding. Even if the baby just gets the colostrum, that is a very important thing due to the antibodies they get from it.
on Jan 04, 2006
I remember with our first, my wife gave the breastfeeding a good try, but alass she found it was just not working out. We talked to out Doctor and he said "take 2 twenty year olds; can you tell who was breastfed?" and then said - If it works for you great, if not bottles are just as fine. So we stopped and went to bottles.

The real kicker was the fanatic group of breastfeeders called la leche or something like that. They had come by when we first started trying breasting in the hospital and got our information and gave us some of theirs. 2 weeks later when they called back to see how things were going I told them we had given up and had gone to bottles.

They called about 5 times trying to get us to go back to breasting until I got pissed off and told them to stop harrassing us! They made my wife feel like she was doing something bad to the kid by not breasting.

They never called again after i finished with them.

What ever works for the mom is fine for the kid.
on Jan 09, 2006
If someone is extremely uncomfortable with breastfeeding, it isn't going to be the best thing for the baby. Women who are relaxed with a bottle are going to have a better relationship with their baby than if they are totally stressed out over breastfeeding.

But isn't there a lot of evidence for a breastfeeding instinct in mothers? My wife had a deep need to breastfeed after all four births... it was only health issues in baby #2 and lack of interest in baby #3 that prevented all four of our kids from being exclusively nursed as oppsoed to bottle-fed.
I can understand if environmental issues prevent breastfeeding, but if the mom wants to, why shouldn't she? Should a would-be nurser let social issues get in her way of what is best for the baby?
on Jan 09, 2006
As a sidenote, singr, while this information is good, be advised that CPS has a history of targetting families for "neglect" who breastfeed longer then they deem appropriate. They need this information badly.
on Jan 09, 2006
be advised that CPS has a history of targetting families for "neglect" who breastfeed longer then they deem appropriate.

Your comment reminds me of a woman my wife and I knew in Phoenix. She had a nursing four-year-old, never weaned. Came up to mommy while she was talking with us, asked if he could have "a snack", and she discreetly whipped it out for him.

As far as I'm concerned, if the child is old enough to do that, it's been going on far far far too long.
on Jan 09, 2006
As far as I'm concerned, if the child is old enough to do that, it's been going on far far far too long.


I'm inclined to agree with that, singr...but I'm VERY leery of using my personal standards as a basis of denying rights to others. The situation I'm talking about involved a 16 month old...and I have read documented cases of investigations when the child was much younger (in direct defiance of the FACT that leading pediatricians recommend that a child be breastfed EXCLUSIVELY for the first six months).
on Jan 09, 2006
But isn't there a lot of evidence for a breastfeeding instinct in mothers?


Not that I'm aware of. Breastfeeding might be natural but it sure isn't easy or comfortable for a lot of women. A lot of women worry themselves sick about whether their breastfed baby is getting enough since breasts don't come with ounce markers. A lot of women have never had anyone close to them that knows about breastfeeding and just feel like they don't know what to do.

I asked for help from the breastfeeding specialist at the hospital when I had my first baby. It was awful! I had a very difficult delivery and was weak and passing out. The specialist grabbed me in very unwelcomed ways. She pressured me to breastfeed right away threatening that if I didn't, they'd be forced to give my son a bottle. I was naive and exhausted and later found out that was totally uncalled for.

I ended up pumping for my first son for a whole month. I wouldn't wish that on anyone. I do recommend pumping for the first week if you are unable to breastfeed. My son got the benefit of the colostrum and first milk and then got formula. He has and always has been a very healthy boy and we have a very strong bond.

Breastfeeding is an instinct for babies but not all of them are good at it. Same goes for mothers. Don't get me wrong, I think moms should always give it a chance no matter what unless there is a medical reason that prevents it. What I am saying is that noone should be guilting them if they are miserable and it just isn't working for whatever reason.

Let's get real about the whole parenting issue. I know people who breast fed their babies only to feed them junk food forever more once they were bigger. You are not a superior parent because you breast feed and you are not an inferior one because you don't.
on Jan 09, 2006
You are not a superior parent because you breast feed and you are not an inferior one because you don't.

Please don't misunderstand me. I hope that what I'm saying isn't coming across all holier-than-thou. While I think that breastfeeding is the ideal, I understand that people can't or won't do it, for various reasons. It's about personal choice, but it's also about the natural way for mothers to feed their babies.

I think moms should always give it a chance no matter what unless there is a medical reason that prevents it.

I agree wholeheartedly. And my wife agrees too. And she's the one that's gotta make that milk!
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