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Dating Service 'Discriminates' Against Married Man
eHarmony won't let married guys troll for babes
Published on March 28, 2006 By singrdave In Dating
From Reuters News:



SAN FRANCISCO (Reuters) - A California man in the process of getting a divorce said on Monday he was suing a popular online dating service that barred him from joining until his marriage is officially over.

John Claassen, a 36-year-old lawyer, said he was ready to resume dating but maintains that Pasadena, California-based agency eHarmony is violating his civil rights by not letting him use its service before his divorce is official.

The Oakland, California-based lawyer said he is asking a state judge to end eHarmony's policy of only admitting unmarried people to its dating service. "There are a lot of people out there in my situation who would like to move on but under these policies can't," Claassen said.

The company, which advertises it is "dedicated to helping serious singles build lasting relationships," did not return calls for comment.

Claassen said his lawsuit is based on a state law requiring businesses to disregard a person's marital status in the provision of services.
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16
garsgolfer
on Mar 30, 2006
I am with eHarmony! There are a great number of dating service choices out there, yet he chooses one that's for real serious single people. Which leads me to wonder might he be suing eHarmony to get publicity for his practice, and maybe to get a settlement out of court helping to defray his divorce settlement costs.

Too many lawyers are pathetically void of values and morals in my book, making him another liberal idiot hoping to harm anything the could be considered morally within reason.
17
singrdave
on Mar 31, 2006
Cheers to eHarmony for condemning a potentially adulterous man.

I wholeheartedly agree.

Divorces sure can take a long time though. But if he's really serious about dating again (if that's what he thinks he deserves) he ought to do the right thing and wait it out.

If he's that serious then I'm sure there are lots of sites that will take his money.

I think he's just trying to make a buck at the expense of Dr. Neil Clark Warren's morals.
18
singrdave
on Apr 01, 2006
Is it just me or does the bride in the photo have a really skinny neck?
Looks like a straw with an egg on top.

Yeah, I see what you mean. She has an incredibly gawky-looking silhouette.
19
zergimmi
on Apr 01, 2006
The guy is obviusly now seperated from his wife and intends to have the marriage finished in the eyes of the law, so in effect he is not an adulterer, having said this I really can't stand people who have to sue at the drop of a hat, so no sympathy here, what's wrong wih trying another agency. All a bit of a wank if you ask me. Will he represent himself, remember the old saying about a person who has themself as a lawyer, I have to agree ths guy is a fool whether he represent himself or not, most dating sites do not allow married people onto their sites, except those that advertise they are for married or single people who are intent on having extra marital affairs.
20
singrdave
on Apr 02, 2006
so in effect he is not an adulterer

And yet, in effect, he is still married.

those that advertise they are for married or single people who are intent on having extra marital affairs.

They have those too? Oh wait, the internet has EVERYTHING.
21
MasonM
on Apr 02, 2006
Sounds like yet another money hungry sleeze, errr I mean lawyer.
22
SuBFG
on Apr 04, 2006
When I saw the subject of this article I laughed and had to read it. Are you for real? If this isn't some joke you're pulling, you need help. I mean like serious therapy. My ex-husband was dating before our divorce was final, but he came to me first and we discussed it. I told hime to go ahead. Better to be out in the open instead of sneaking around. We never cheated on eachother, even when we became separated. It wasn't until we decided to get divorced that we agreed it was okay if either one of wanted to date. I had a few dates, nothing that lead to anything. He dated twice. The second date is now his wife. There were about 8 months inbetween his 1st date and the 2nd which is his wife now. Before she came into his life he was starting to look inside to better himself. He spent more time with the kids' who are in his custody. Physical illness prevented them from living with me. Anyway, I continue to work on the things about myself, so when the time comes I will have a healthier relationship. Since she came into his life he stopped working on the inside and the children have been pushed to the side. Very sad when people can't learn to be conrent by themself. I believe relationships, like water seek its own level. As healthy of a person you are emotionally, mentally and spiritually is as healthy of a person in those areas you will attract. As sick as you are emotionally, mentally and spiritually is the same sick character you will attract. It may not seem this way at first, but stay long enough you will see I tell you the truth. Oh, and if you don't believe me, ask my ex-husband. I will always have love in my heart for him as a friend and as the father of our children. I could never see myself or want to be married again to him. Not to make myself seem better then he, but I have grown so much as a woman, emotionally, mentally and spiritually it wouldn't work. He refuses to continue therapy with his present wife, who tries to get him to go. So you see, they are not happy. Remember, water seels its own level and so do relationships.
23
SuBFG
on Apr 04, 2006
When I saw the subject of this article I laughed and had to read it. Are you for real? If this isn't some joke you're pulling, you need help. I mean like serious therapy. My ex-husband was dating before our divorce was final, but he came to me first and we discussed it. I told him to go ahead. Better to be out in the open instead of sneaking around. We never cheated on eachother, even when we became separated. It wasn't until we decided to get divorced that we agreed it was okay if either one of us wanted to date. I went on a few dates; nothing that lead to anything. He dated twice. The second date is now his wife. There were about 8 months inbetween his 1st date and the 2nd which is his wife now. Before she came into his life he was starting to look inside to better himself.He seemed happier and said he was feeling better about himself. He spent more time with the kids' who are in his custody. Physical illness prevented them from living with me. Since she came into his life he stopped working on the inside and the children have been pushed to the side. Very sad when people can't learn to be conrent by themself. I believe relationships, like water seek its own level. As healthy of a person you are emotionally, mentally and spiritually is as healthy of a person in those areas you will attract. As sick as you are emotionally, mentally and spiritually is the same sick character you will attract. It may not seem this way at first, but stay long enough you will see I tell you the truth. Oh, and if you don't believe me, ask my ex-husband. I will always have love in my heart for him as a friend and as the father of our children. I could never see myself or want to be married again to him. Not to make myself seem better then he, but I have grown so much as a woman, emotionally, mentally and spiritually it wouldn't work. He refuses to continue therapy with his present wife, who tries to get him to go. So you see, they are not happy. Anyway, I continue to work on bettering myself, so when the time comes I will attract and be attracted to a well-rounded healthier person. An intimate relationship, platonic, and a general friendship develops over time and takes hard work. Remember, water seeks its own level and so do people. ~~~FOLLOW YOUR PASSION~~~
24
SuBFG
on Apr 04, 2006
When I saw the subject of this article I laughed and had to read it. Are you for real? If this isn't some joke you're pulling, you need help. I mean like serious therapy. My ex-husband was dating before our divorce was final, but he came to me first and we discussed it. I told him to go ahead. Better to be out in the open instead of sneaking around. We never cheated on eachother, even when we became separated. It wasn't until we decided to get divorced that we agreed it was okay if either one of us wanted to date. I went on a few dates; nothing that lead to anything. He dated twice. The second date is now his wife. There were about 8 months inbetween his 1st date and the 2nd which is his wife now. Before she came into his life he was starting to look inside to better himself.He seemed happier and said he was feeling better about himself. He spent more time with the kids' who are in his custody. Physical illness prevented them from living with me. Since she came into his life he stopped working on the inside and the children have been pushed to the side. Very sad when people can't learn to be conrent by themself. I believe relationships, like water seek its own level. As healthy of a person you are emotionally, mentally and spiritually is as healthy of a person in those areas you will attract. As sick as you are emotionally, mentally and spiritually is the same sick character you will attract. It may not seem this way at first, but stay long enough you will see I tell you the truth. Oh, and if you don't believe me, ask my ex-husband. I will always have love in my heart for him as a friend and as the father of our children. I could never see myself or want to be married again to him. Not to make myself seem better then he, but I have grown so much as a woman, emotionally, mentally and spiritually it wouldn't work. He refuses to continue therapy with his present wife, who tries to get him to go. So you see, they are not happy. Anyway, I continue to work on bettering myself, so when the time comes I will attract and be attracted to a well-rounded healthier person. An intimate relationship, platonic, and a general friendship develops over time and takes hard work. Remember, water seeks its own level and so do people. ~~~FOLLOW YOUR PASSION~~~
25
SuBFG
on Apr 04, 2006
Sorry for the duplicate comment, but I wanted to correct a few spelling mistakes, but when I click edit I get an error has occured on the page. What's up with that? Can someone tell me how to fix it?
26
singrdave
on Apr 04, 2006
Can someone tell me how to fix it?

I get that occasionally, too, and I don't know how to fix it either. It's just something that happens.

Okay, now to the meat of your comment:
When I saw the subject of this article I laughed and had to read it. Are you for real? If this isn't some joke you're pulling, you need help. I mean like serious therapy.

I gotta say that is high praise. I am glad that people find me off-kilter... wait, are you saying I'm off or the guy from the article is off?

My ex-husband was dating before our divorce was final, but he came to me first and we discussed it. I told him to go ahead... It wasn't until we decided to get divorced that we agreed it was okay if either one of us wanted to date.

Okay, sounds like you two came to an amicable agreement. Did either of you use a dating service? If so, did either of you let that dating service know that you were still legally married? And had that hypothetical dating service known your legal marital status, would they have allowed you to use their services to find a hook-up?

What I am saying in this article is that morality aside, eHarmony is well within its rights to say that people who are in legally binding marriage contracts cannot use their site to find another match.

They are otherwise... engaged! BWAH HAH HAH! I crack myself up.
27
singrdave
on Apr 10, 2006
Are you for real? If this isn't some joke you're pulling, you need help. I mean like serious therapy.

Okay, now I think I see what you were getting at:
You think I was crazy for calling attention to a married guy suing eHarmony for refusing service to him, not that the guy was trying to prove that eHarmony was discriminating against him? Why shouldn't I call attention to it? It's a loony lawsuit, frivolous!
I have been happily married now for twelve years. If I up and quit this marriage, I wouldn't start with a dating service until the ink was dry on the divorce, mostly because a reputable dating service shouldn't have anything to do with me until I was free of the legal constraints of the marriage contract. I'm not a lawyer, but as far as I'm concerned, eHarmony is perfectly within its rights to refuse dating services to people who are married or separated. Until they're fully, legally divorced, they can't be on the market. eHarmony is not discriminating against married people; they are trying to keep married people away from their sincere singles.
28
online casinos uncovered
on May 01, 2006
I like what you do, continue this way.
29
singrdave
on May 12, 2006
umm, thanks again, trollbot.
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